In our daily lives, we constantly make decisions that balance the needs of others—children, friends, parents, and yes, our pets. But when one of the individuals affected by our decisions can’t speak up, their needs may be overlooked.
That silent participant is often the family dog. When we change routines or lifestyles, we may unintentionally disrupt their comfort or well-being. Sometimes these changes are necessary, but often they reflect what’s easiest or most convenient for us. The question becomes: are we giving our dogs the same consideration we’d give any other family member?
In my work with clients, I often see a mismatch between what people need and what their dogs require. It’s not because people don’t care—it’s often because they aren’t sure how to meet their dog’s needs while still managing their own. When we take the time to understand who dogs truly are and what makes them thrive, we’re more likely to find solutions that support both human and canine well-being.
For example, full-day doggie daycare is a common choice for people who work long hours. But for many dogs, it’s overstimulating and stressful. A more balanced approach might include one or two half-days at daycare (if the dog enjoys other dogs), regular walks with a trusted dog walker, and providing interactive toys for solo enrichment.
Similarly, while daily walks are valuable, they should be meaningful. Does your dog enjoy the walk? Are they given time to sniff, explore, and engage with the environment? If leash pulling is a problem, consider training rather than just managing—so that both you and your dog can enjoy the experience.
Some people enjoy dressing up their dogs or painting their nails. That’s fine—as long as the dog has been taught to tolerate and enjoy being handled. If not, what seems like harmless fun can become a source of stress.
When it comes to vacations, we must ask whether our dogs are receiving the same quality of care we provide at home. The cheapest option may not always meet your dog’s physical and emotional needs. Responsible ownership means planning ahead and budgeting for proper care.
There will always be times when we must do things our dogs dislike—vet visits, grooming, crate rest. The goal isn’t to avoid all discomfort, but to reduce stress by training for cooperation and supporting them through difficult moments.
A client once asked me whether the person or the dog is really my client. While the person writes the check, my responsibility is to both. I speak for the dog—the one without a voice—and that’s a privilege I don’t take lightly.
So the next time you’re making a change, ask yourself: who benefits? Who might be left out? And how can we make room for everyone—especially those who depend on us to speak on their behalf?