Today, as I waited at home for a delivery, I found myself navigating a common challenge: managing my dogs’ excitement while ensuring a calm environment.
Before the delivery arrived, both Rio and Deuce were crated in my office, as per our usual routine. When the knock on the door came, Rio immediately began barking, likely wondering, Who’s here, and why can’t I go say hello? Deuce quickly joined in, adding to the commotion.
After waiting for a brief moment of silence, I stepped into the office. Both dogs looked at me quietly, their expressions a mix of curiosity and anticipation. “Good dogs!” I praised, leaving them with a sense of accomplishment before closing the door again.
But Rio wasn’t done yet, and her barking resumed. I paused to consider my options.
Sure, I could storm in with a commanding tone or resort to punitive measures like spraying them with water or using a pet corrector to create fear. But instead, I chose a better path—a positive one.
I saw this as a golden opportunity to teach. Instead of intimidating them into compliance, I decided to show them what I wanted them to do: stay calm and quiet in their crates. Armed with slices of hot dogs, I waited for another moment of silence before stepping back into the room.
With each quiet moment, I rewarded them with a treat. Rio and Deuce quickly caught on, associating calm behavior with delicious rewards. As the delivery wrapped up, I returned to let them out. Rio, ever the charmer, stayed in her crate, patiently waiting for another hot dog. I rewarded her sweet demeanor before letting both dogs investigate the new scents by the door, satisfied but slightly disappointed to have missed meeting a new friend.
By choosing reinforcement over intimidation, I achieved more than just temporary compliance. I strengthened our bond and reinforced desirable behaviors without fear or conflict.
Why Positive Training Works
Science has shown time and again that we don’t need intimidation, pain, or discomfort to modify behavior. Positive reinforcement allows us to focus on what we want our dogs to learn rather than fixating on what we don’t like.
By addressing behaviors with kindness and clarity, we create an environment of trust and understanding. Not only did I feel good about how I handled the situation, but Rio and Deuce also felt secure and valued.
When we align our actions with our values—teaching through respect and kindness—we avoid internal conflict and build stronger relationships. And yes, this approach made for a great night’s sleep on our new mattress, knowing I stayed true to my principles.
Let’s focus on reinforcing the behaviors we want and teaching with love. It’s a win-win for both humans and dogs! 🐾